What is the curse of a capable person?
You have stories about your past, your personal energy, food, time availability, fitness, achieving your goals… everything!
In order to improve your lifestyle and achieve better results you must be able to change your story.
What happens when you try your very hardest and yet you still can’t attain the healthy, balanced life you long for? What happens when you don’t understand the reasons your life is not satisfying? You feel Cursed! You’re disappointed you’re not living the life you thought all your hard work would bring, and you’re feeling run down in the process.
Early in life and as we go through life, we create a novel, a fictitious story about ourselves that we write based on what we think is being reflected back to us from those around us – as if we are looking at ourselves in a mirror. If the mirrors you are looking into are cracked or inaccurate, you get a distorted view of yourself as you would in a circus mirror. As a result you create an inaccurate story about yourself and this story sets the stage for an irrational belief system.
A lack of empathy creates an unsupportive internal story, a belief that you’re not quite good enough, which sets the stage for over-achievement in an effort to make up for what is secretly missing inside. When you are able to change your biased story, you can live a life free of tension and anxiety and full of joy and meaningful achievement.
The Four Stages to Greater Health and Success.
The Curse is ultimately at the root of most intimacy, lifestyle and achievement issues, and is resolved by developing a new view of yourself by changing your story(s); the unsupportive, fictional novel in your head. The process by which this occurs is comprised of four distinct stages that lead to greater love, health and success.
They are as follows:
Stage 1 -Uncover Your Story
Uncover your story – the one that was created from compelling yet inaccurate information and why it’s not serving you.
Stage 2 -Discover the Consequences of Your Story
It describes the concept of Performance Addiction and the thinking that was born out of your fictional story. Performance Addiction is the belief that perfecting appearance and achieving status will secure love and respect. It is quite common in those suffering from the Curse. Performance Addiction is the most common characteristic of the Curse given the reinforcement of non-stop performance in today’s culture. It is an irrational, inaccurate belief system, hardwired early in life and reinforced by cultural expectations.
Stage 3 -Acknowledge the Emotional Impact of Your Story
The six trials of adulthood - (expectations, regrets and unfulfilled dreams, control, fear, intimacy, and community) that are amplified by this addiction and their effect on your behavior.
Stage 4 – Recognize How Your Story Distorts Your Thinking
During this stage you become keenly aware of the distortions in thinking that result from the Curse.
The Invitation – Change Your Story and Get Your Lifestyle Working Better For You!
Once you identify and can appreciate your current stories with the help of a coach, and are aware of their influence on your life, your attitude, your outlook and your results, you will know what stories need to change.
This is when you will be successful improving your lifestyle and experiencing more balance in your life because you will no longer be driving yourself a little bit crazy. Peace of mind set’s in.
Resolve
Resolution of the Curse results in developing a resilient sense of self and becoming what is called a Spiritual Learner- one who is open to ongoing learning throughout life from all credible sources and seeks to improve.
One who seeks further knowledge and wisdom without bias and preconceived notions. This is the mark of an individual who has freed himself/herself from the grip of the Curse and who can live in balance with vibrant health and peace of mind while achieving even their most ambitious life goals.
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